The Relationship Expert
Licensed Psychologist in Newport Beach, Pismo Beach, & Los Osos
Couples Counseling
Many couples are able to connect and enjoy one another. At the same time, they also struggle with tough issues that can easily escalate out of control. When starting our couples counseling sessions, some issues may be so flammable that I ask couples not to talk about them until we are together in therapy. There, I help partners not only to listen, but to hear what is hiding underneath the concern.

For other couples, their relationship is going well, but life brings a fresh set of challenges when a major event happens. For them, having the guidance of a professional provides support during times of change. In the same way that engaged couples gain essential insights from premarital counseling, couples in all walks of life can use counseling to transform challenges into opportunities to grow closer together.
3 Big Pay-offs from Our Couples Counseling Sessions
1. You won’t be alone. The three of us will work together as a team. We’ll uncover the areas where break-downs happen between you. And we’ll discover what you can do about it.
One question I’ve asked a lot of clients in therapy is, “Are you both on the same team or on opposite teams?”
2. You’ll learn how to face disagreements without accusation or blame. When you assign blame, it is nearly impossible to solve the problem. Instead, you find yourself locked in a power struggle. In the end, both of you are wounded from the battle, but no one wins. I will work with you to break this cycle that can be deadly for relationships.
3. You will benefit from mountains of research on how successful relationships work. Many of my clients experience quick results from my approach which is firmly rooted in the theory and research of attachment. When it comes to therapy, you don’t have to rely on guesswork. There are proven techniques that are remarkable for creating stronger and safer relationships. You can benefit from them.
Learn more about Dr. Lisa’s approach…
Couples on the Same Team
One question I’ve asked a lot of clients in therapy is, “Are you both on the same team or on opposite teams?” When I ask couples this, I emphasize “opposite” by holding up both of my fists with the knuckles touching. It gives the impression of two opposing forces crashing into each other. Admittedly, I must do it a lot, because couples will tell me something like, “This week, we weren’t on the same team.” They also hold up their fists to demonstrate how they opposed each other.

I help couples get un-stuck so they can see more than just the misunderstanding. I want them to see that one of the things they are really fighting for is a caring and understanding relationship.
My approach is to work with you as a team to get to the heart of what you’re facing. With insights based on research, I want you to have the tools to succeed now and for years to come.
“Dr. Lisa makes you feel calm, relaxed and comfortable in being able to open up about difficult issues…She taught us things about ourselves that we had not understood after 35 years of being together.” Read more…
-M.N.